If your marriage is on the rocks, just get back in the driver's seat and wake up your wife's sex drive. Take a leadership role and saving your marriage will be easier than you anticipated.
What you have to do is to change all your negative thoughts into positive ones. If you master your mind, you will master your life and in turn become the master of your relationship. You can change your habits, behaviours, activities, beliefs and ideas and enjoy the passionate rock-solid marriage or relationship you deserve.
To quote Henry Ford said "Whether you think you can or think you can't - either way you're right." Are you a CAN or a CAN'T? Can you change enough to save your marriage? And not only save it but to also grow to be the master of your relationship and fill it with love, romance, happiness with the added benefit - lots of great sex.
The solution to saving your marriage is quite simple really. It all relates to leadership in the marriage. When a woman is being lead by a loving, fun, charismatic leader she will do anything to make him happy. You see instinctively leadership is everything to a woman's sex drive. I know that thought is opposite to what you've been taught. You have been brought up to believe that men and women should be totally equal. In business and society, that is absolutely true. But in your marriage someone has to be the leader and that someone must be you.
Return to the caveman's hunter mode by rebooting your brain. Return to the driver's seat. Reawaken the leader you once were so that your wife's sex drive will sense that you are a great leader and her attraction for you will fly through the roof. She will love and adore you unconditionally and you yourself will grow stronger and sexier than you have ever been.
And why is that you may well ask? Well our sexuality is still very much governed by our Stone Age genetics where a male's sex drive and hunting skills had to be strong enough to ensure the survival of the human species. If you talk in reproductive terms men are simply sperm donors and providers, and women are programmed as the child-bearers and nurturers. Cavemen were leaders, and that is what you need to be as well.
Sex drive is based on both biological, and psychological characteristics. The biological arm includes the brain, the nervous system, hormones and physical well being. Actually the brain is the biggest sex organ of all. Sex drive has its origins in the limbic system and the hypothalamus, which are the most primitive parts of the brain.
The psychological level is related to our feelings and thoughts; lifestyle and the environment; and on the quality of the relationship. It is controlled by the desire centres in the brain which control sexual desire and arousal. These desire centres are controlled by hormones. The male hormone testosterone which affects both males and females, has a particularly important role.. The desire centres send "sex currents" which control sex drive. This "sexual electricity" varies from day to day and from person to person so it is to be expected that everyone has different levels of desire and this will fluctuate from day to day depending on the circumstances. If your physical or emotional well-being are impaired then your sexual interest will possibly be reduced as well.
Because their testosterone level is often 10 to 20 times higher, men are expected to have more sex drive than women. However it does not always work out this way and sometimes couples have differing levels of sex drive. Problems with libido are common with one partner having a higher sex drive than the other. Unfortunately this is a common reason for divorce and when you are working on saving your marriage it is essential to keep this in mind. True love is not always a bed of roses and a perfect match in all areas of life (sexual, emotional, intellectual and spiritually) is only for fairy tales or romantic novels.
Sexual desire means feeling horny or having interest in sexual activity. Sexual arousal means being turned on and physically ready to have sex. The higher your sex drive the easier arousal will be. Sexual desire emanates from love and trust in a close relationship and is a sign of good health and wellbeing. The factors which affect sex drive are:
- Neurological (the brain and nervous system)
- Hormonal (in particular testosterone)
- Personal wellbeing
- Physical wellbeing
- Relationship wellbeing
If any of these factors are affected by any other condition such as sickness or depression, then your desire will wane and you will have less desire. If all factors are in good health, you will think about sex more often and that is the key to saving your marriage. In order to enhance your sex drive it is important to focus on the positives and tune out the negatives about yourself, your partner, your relationship and your sex life. To maintain a happier, healthier sex life it is important to stay fit and healthy, and to work on maintaining a happy and healthy relationship.
Enhancers increase sex drive, inhibitors decrease it. Find out what turns your partner on or off and then maximise enhancers and minimise the inhibitors. The use of enhancers will improve your sex life and that in turn will help you to save your marriage. Do you remember the well known nursery rhyme?
"Sugar and spice and all things nice, That's what little girls are made of. Slugs and snails and puppy dogs' tails, That's what little boys are made of."
Men like porn whereas women crave romance. Typical enhancers for girls include romantic gestures such as flowers, phone calls, intimacy, walks along the beach and holding hands. Classic enhancers for men are things like nudity, pornography, erotica, and variation in lovemaking methods. What takes place in your relationship during the day-time will actually affect the quality of your sex life. Use enhancers to get your libido back in sync with each other. Good loving is the key to great sex and great sex is the key to saving your marriage.
Intimacy is the ultimate merging of mind and body, letting the other into your deepest and darkest secrets. They get to know who you really are. With this comes a high level of trust and if this is broken it will cause severe damage to the relationship. With intimacy comes commitment - a conscious choice to go into an all exclusive relationship. Commitment leads to fulfilment in a relationship. Re-establish trust and commitment as a move to saving your marriage. Intimacy, trust and commitment are a must if you want to save your marriage.
The happiest relationships are experienced when you are good friends as well as lovers. If passion diminishes the relationship still remains strong because of the friendship bonds developed - play, sport, social, fun, romance and other fun past-times you can do together. You can develop intimacy on many levels:
* Emotional *Intellectual *Physical *Family *Recreational *Spiritual *Sexual
All levels are important for a good relationship and the more you do together the more you bond and the more secure your relationship becomes and the more chance you have of having a long and happy marriage.
So in conclusion saving your marriage is easier than you think - the answer is to re-arouse your wife's sex drive by putting yourself back in the driver's seat. Arouse the leader in you and become the master of your relationship to save your marriage. The rest will follow.
Most men don't need a reason to have sex, other than the fact that they want to. But just in case a man - or his partner - needs some convincing, here is a list of 13 reasons to have sex tonight. Read them, memorize them, print a copy and keep them in the night stand so that the next time the old not tonight because of a headache excuse comes out, there is a whole list of reasons why yes, tonight should win out! Of course, with all these extra reasons to have sex more frequently, men may need to up their penis care routine to keep the little guy running as efficiently as possible.
1) Sex cures headaches: Looks like that classic excuse is no more. Research has found that orgasms can actually provide headache relief - even of a severe migraine - so next time she has a headache, encourage her to skip the medicine cabinet and head right for the bedroom!
2) Stress lowers blood pressure: Studies have found that people who have sex more often have a lower diastolic blood pressure (the bottom number) - that's another good reason to increase the nookie.
3) Sex may improve breathing: Believe it or not, sex may be a natural antihistamine; some people report relief from allergy and asthma symptoms after sex.
4) Sex makes one happy: Researchers have found that the more sexually active a person is, the happier - and healthier--they are. In fact, people who are getting more action tend to take fewer sick days than those who are not.
5) Sex is a stress reliever: Getting the heart pumping is a sure fire way to drop one's stress level. Some people hit the gym, some people hit the sheets - consider the latter the next time there is a need to blow off some steam!
6) Sex burns calories: A particularly active romp in the hay may burn as many as 200 calories or more! Sure beats an evening at the gym!
7) Sex boosts immunity: Even men who only squeeze in one tryst per week enjoy a healthier immune system. Regular sex boosts the body's production of immunoglobulin A; so it seems that having sex every day keeps the doctor away!
8) Sex is heart healthy: Regularly getting it on actually keeps the ticker healthy and reduces a man's chance of a fatal heart attack - according to one British study. Men who had sex two or more times per week were at half the risk of those who got busy less than once a month.
9) Sex promotes bonding: Sex releases the chemical oxytocin, which facilitates bonding and feelings of closeness between partners. So rather than hop in the shower immediately after, lie around and reap the benefits of these feel-good chemicals.
10) Sex improves self-esteem: Researchers have found that not only does sex improve one's self-esteem, individuals with higher self-esteem have more sex - so getting on a roll may just create a positive cycle of wanting more sex.
11) Sex fights pain: Having sex releases endorphins - which are the body's natural pain-killers - individuals have reported relief from headaches, arthritis pain, minor aches and pains, and menstrual cramps after having sex.
12) Sex may protect against prostate cancer: The Journal of American Medical Association published an article finding that men who ejaculated 21 or more times per month were less likely to get prostate cancer compared to men who only ejaculated 4-7 times per month. Though other health factors certainly influence one's risk, frequent ejaculation appears to reduce the chances by some margin.
13) Sex encourages sleep: Many people find that they dose right off to sleep after sex; this happens because the oxytocin released promotes relaxation and induces sleepiness. Crashing out post coitus is all well and good, just be sure to satisfy all parties involved to prevent bad feelings and assure that both people get a good night's sleep.
Priming the Penis for Sex
Now that there are 13 scientifically backed reason to get it on more regularly, a tune up of the penis care routine may be in order. A little penis TLC can go a long way toward a healthy sex life. Simply wash the area gently with soap and water, pat dry and apply a penis vitamin cream to the area while it is still slightly damp (most professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil). A penis vitamin cream, loaded with essential vitamins and minerals, will help keep the skin supple and smooth while fighting odor causing bacteria and eliminating unsightly bumps and rashes, which can occur from too much bacteria. Daily application can help keep the penis fresh and ready to go - whatever the reason to have sex may be that day.
Knowing how to trigger a woman's sexual attraction is about the most important thing you can learn how to do IF you want to experience success with women. If you don't know what triggers her to be sexually attracted to YOU, then you are going to have a hard time getting past the initial stages. You are more than likely going to end up as just a friend and nothing more. You have to become the kind of guy that makes her lust for you.
How can you make a woman lust for you and create massive sexual attraction?
You have to start with understanding what makes a woman "tick." You have to be able to get inside her mind and understand what makes her become sexually attracted to a man. Most men are unaware of this stuff and they fail to ignite that spark of attraction that creates chemistry and passion with a woman.
You have to be able to trigger her emotions and FEEL PASSION for YOU.
If you are unable to do this, then the chances of her feeling lust and incredible sexual attraction to you are almost non-existent. She will keep you as a friend or an acquaintance, but she will NOT keep you in her bed.
And this is where you REALLY want to be. You want to be the guy that ignites that spark as soon as she sees you and ends up in her arms, her thoughts, and her bed.
To make her feel lust and passion for you, you have to create sexual triggers that will make her think of you in a more sexual way.
Want to know more about how to make her LUST for you and create intense attraction with women?
If you are not a teenager it doesn't mean that appearing sexy and being comfortable at the same time are not meant for you. It can come just as naturally for you as it does for the younger generation. If you have crossed your 50th birthday it doesn't in any way mean that you have to end up wearing an over sized, shapeless and faded underwear. Now women are beginning to realize that there is a huge range of lingerie available which is meant to fit any body frame, size, shape or age.
Sexy lingerie and underwear can make you feel different and bring a positive change to how you see yourself. In other words it boosts our confidence and that as a consequent changes how we appear overall. French women realized this trick several years back and paid special attention while choosing lingerie just to appear beautiful from the outside. Sexy underwear can give your body the right curves, and change your entire gait which enhances the body's sex appeal. It not only makes you appear beautiful but also makes you feel more comfortable and confident about your looks.
Who thinks that frilly and colorful underwear that are available almost everywhere from supermarkets to retailers won't serve the purpose? But to bring the spark alive and do the trick, cheap purchases at times don't give perfection. Women who have had their 50th birthday party are returning back to good old sexy days and pamper themselves with luxury underwear that makes them feel and appear younger. Well, they buy these because they deserve them and that's the way they should treat themselves.
You deserve to pay attention to your self and should pamper yourself like every person who is young at heart does. If wearing luxury lingerie gives you the comfort you deserve and makes you feel good about your appearance then why not get one for yourself and feel good? It doesn't mean you have to buy yourself lingerie that costs huge sums of money or has to be ultra sexy. All it needs to be is comfortable and good looking.
Regardless of size changes, age unfortunately, changes the firmness of the tissues that hold our breasts uptight. So when we grow older, our breast tissues sag and hence we need bras that can handle the sagging and make our breast appear firmer and more proportionate. No matter what the size is and what age group the customer falls in, bras of all kinds are available that give such support and make busts appear younger. By the day, these brands such as Felina and Conturelle are winning immense popularity and competing well with renowned brands.
But the leading luxury lingerie that is out striking every competition is designed by Barbara which is a design house in Paris that uses only top quality Swiss embroidery and laces of French Leaver to create such sensuous designs and materials. Though they are favorites among every age group of women but women who need extra support and desire younger looks are the biggest buying group of these sexy and elegant lingerie.
Tips for buying perfect lingerie
Whether we are out to purchase sexy lingerie for ourselves or for some one we dearly love, the shopping experience is such a delight. If you are not shopping for some one else then shopping for such exciting lingerie with some one you love can be extremely exciting and full of fun.
Purchasing the perfect lingerie:
-Buy a bra that fits your bust accurately and get your size measured to get the right bra according to your size.
-If you are a first timer to try out something exciting and different then go slow and steady to be comfortable with your shopping. You wouldn't want to land up being afraid to try out a bra that is too adventurous for you and so you must choose something that's a little more adventurous than what you are already used to.
-Go with what your brain tells you. Follow your instinct and get yourself something you want and not something that you ought to wear.
-Wearing or buying sexy underwear does not mean that you are preparing yourself for an intimate session with some one. It can be fun to wear because that's what you want. You need comfort and so you should buy underwear that gives you that while it makes you feel good at the same time.
-At times our feminine self calls for some pampering so why not do it? At times we feel like giving ourselves the best look and in this case there is nothing like frivolous undergarments.
Shopping for sexy lingerie for your love:
-Men can buy their ladies the perfect lingerie without being embarrassed about purchasing the wrong size if they follow a guide book that's meant for men who know nothing about such lingerie shopping. So be proud of your purchase and show your partner how much you notice her!
-Always make sure you check the store about their policy for accepting return items and also keep the purchase bill with you. Just don't leave the purchase tag on otherwise it may seem a bit repelling when you present your gift.
-Quality, romance and style are primary features that lingerie must have. So make sure you don't confuse what your partner would want to wear with what YOU want her to wear.
-Select lingerie that goes with her body features and her curves. The lingerie you choose must compliment the hair, eyes or skin color of the person you are buying it for, to enhance its appeal.
-There is a trick a husband uses whenever he buys his partner a lingerie set. He purchases a brief for her and once she likes it, he then purchases the bra that goes with it. This way he doesn't end up with a wrong non-returnable item which his wife doesn't even like.
Stop worrying about your age and get yourself sexy lingerie that you deserve!
Do you want to jump start your love life? These simple ways of organizing your home will heat up your romance in no time. Find out simple things that you can do today to make your bedroom into a place for romance.
Organizing the bedroom in your home all comes down to one simple thing: Use your bedroom the way it is supposed to be used. There are two basic things that should be happening in your bedroom: Sleep and Romance.
If you have things in your bedroom that take away from one of these two things, ask yourself why you have them in the room. Now of course you are going to have clothes in your bedroom and things that help you get ready in the morning. When I talk about organizing your home and bedroom for romance, I am not talking about that. I am talking about trying to make your bedroom into a space that you use for craft projects, for your home office or as a second toy box in your home.
The bedroom is a bad place for your home office. The bill paying center of your home, which is usually what you use your home office for, and romance simply do not mix. Organizing your home so that you use a corner of the living room or the kitchen for your home office is a much better solution.
Same goes for craft projects that have made their way into your bedroom. It is great if you love doing craft projects. Just keep them out of your bedroom. When organizing your home, organize those craft projects far away from your bedroom. Having to wade through scrapbook supplies in order to get to your bed is a sure-fire way to kill the mood.
I have a daughter so I know that organizing your home so that all of the toys are in one place is difficult. But if your bed has become the unofficial second toy box in your home, there is a good reason why your love life is less passionate than you would like. It is hard to get in the mood for love when you have an action figure wedged in your back. If it is not bed sheets or you or your significant other, it does not belong in or on your bed.
And last but certainly not least (you are going to hate me for this one), get the TV out of your bedroom. Does watching the news before you turn in for the night really excite you? No? I did not think so. Not only is it bad for your love life to have a TV in the bedroom but it is bad for your sleep. Do you really want the last thing you see before you go to sleep for the night to be some news story about what went wrong in the world today? Would it not be a whole lot better to have the last thing you see before you go to sleep for the night be the face of your significant other? Organizing your home is about using spaces as they are meant to be used. And the bedroom is not meant to be used as a TV viewing center. Okay, so you do not want to get rid of the TV in your bedroom. I understand. Then at least limit the amount of time that the TV is on in your bedroom. Better yet, set a schedule for the TV in your bedroom. For example, it does not get turned on after 8 p.m.
Flirting with women is kind of like a national past time for many young guys, but at some point in time, most men will realize that they don't quite have the flirting skills with women that they thought they did. If you want to be able to flirt with women in a way that creates attraction and that sparkle in a woman's eyes, then there are certain flirting tips that you have to know.
If you don't, your ability to flirt with women will be hindered as will your success at being able to attract and date the kind of women that you really desire to be with.
What can a guy do to flirt with women the RIGHT way?
For many guys, flirting with a woman is one of those things that they have to learn by trial and error and this can lead to a lot of frustrations. You don't have to go through this. you can learn how to flirt with a woman the right way and cause her to feel that spark and get that little twinkle in her eyes.
Here are some flirting tips that should help YOU flirt with women the RIGHT way and make a woman feel that spark and get that twinkle in her eyes:
1. What you really want her to do is to feel as though everything is happening NATURALLY.
If you flirt with women and they know right off the bat that all you are trying to do is to flirt with her, then you are not going to get the kind of response that you really desire. Flirting with women has to come across as though it's just kind of happening, not like you are intentionally trying to create attraction with a woman.
2. You have to understand the timing that comes with flirting with a woman.
When it comes down to it, if your timing is off, then you are not going to make her feel the way that you need to in order to make those eyes of hers sparkle. Timing is one of those things that you gain through experience, but there are certain little cues that you can pick up on and you don't have to go through years of trial and error.
3. Flirting is fine and dandy, but you have to be able to take things to a higher level.
I don't know many guys that fantasize about flirting with women. Instead, they fantasize about the things that flirting with women can lead to. If you want to be able to get to another level with a woman, then you have to be able to escalate things with her. Otherwise, all you are doing is having a fun conversation or interaction and nothing more.
4. You have to know how to use your body language to flirt with a woman.
Body language can say more than any group of words that you can put together. If you want to be able to get a woman to fall for you, then you have to know how to use body language to flirt with a woman, it's that simple. Most guys never really learn anything at all about how to use body language to flirt with women, so YOU will be at an advantage.